Although
3 months deems us as total marriage newbies, I think we are rocking this whole
marriage thing. Sure, we have our disagreements… but if we didn’t, this journey
we’re on together couldn’t really be constituted as an adventure, right? And
Gordon B. Hinckley himself said, “Love is meant to be an adventure”. So as long
as you can agree to disagree and choose to be happy rather than to be right
(p.s. read that last piece of advice online the other day and LOVED it), you’re
doing better than fine. PLUS – those tiffs don’t even compare with the many
highlights each day has brought to us since 12.30.15.
Without
further ado, I present to you our very first list of “Marriage Peaks” [because
anyone who knows me knows that I love a good list]
v Sharing a bed. And why did
I place this item at the very tip top of the list? Because that boy’s
freakishly warm body never fails to warm up my constantly subzero toes.
Slipping my feet under his legs as I’m falling asleep may be the greatest thing
EVER. However, I should point out this might be a different story for Kendal…
sharing a bed with me has shown him what it’s like to sleep with an alligator.
Most nights he takes it like a true champion. But on some occasions I’ll wake
up to him shoving my body across the bed, moving me away from my assumed pose –
smack dab in the middle of the mattress, sprawled out like a skydiver in free
fall. (Sorry honey)
v Sharing chores and other
responsibilities. Let me tell ya, it is SO nice to have a partner who helps
keep our home a happy place to be. After a long day, solo work is the last
thing anyone wants to do. But when one person tackles the dishes and the other
takes care of the vacuuming and sweeping, those mundane jobs aren’t so bad. And
it’s all done in half the time. Cheers to that!
v And then there’s the
things that a helpful partner is ESPECIALLY nice for… doing those things we
just really can’t stand. Ironically, Kendal does a better job at not turning
green while pulling clogged hair out of the shower drain. And I am the
designated spider killer in the relationship. (teeheehee totally serious over
here folks)
v Sleepy good morning
snuggles and kisses. There’s just something extra special about those moments
when the sun is streaming through the windows and we’re still cuddled up in our
warm blankets.
v Date night, every night.
Whether we get to enjoy a slow night in, complete with pizza and a Redbox or go
out with some of our fun married couple friends. It’s so wonderful to not have
to deal with those “your place or mine” texts as we figure out plans for the
evening. All we have to do is walk through the door and our night together can
begin right away! It’s a truly beautiful thing.
v Never having to say
goodnight. Of course we always say goodnight as we are curling up to go to bed,
but oh my goodness… one of the best things about being married is never having
to say goodnight and go home. Seriously,
it’s the biggest game changer. We can now peacefully go to bed at a reasonable
hour because we aren’t forcing ourselves to stay awake as we procrastinate
leaving each other for the night. Our bedtime has changed from midnight or
later to 10:30 or earlier. IT’S THRILLING.
v Getting to do our own
thing while still having the fun of being together. As two separate people, we
naturally have our own separate interests. And sometimes I just really like
kicking back and binge watching Grey’s Anatomy (I’M FREAKING OBSESSED BTW),
while Kendal plays some Xbox. Life in our little studio apartment allows us to
always be in close proximity to each other so when we both get the itch for our
guilty pleasures Kendal will turn off the sound on his game and I’ll turn my volume
up so he can hear it. It’s fun for us to do this because he pays close
attention to what’s happening and asks questions to stay up to date on all the
drama. Then whenever I gasp at some gross condition a character has, he’ll run
over and check out the gore with me. It’s a good time. And we both get to do
what we want J Always
a win-win activity!
v Living together forces us
to solve our differences promptly. Which is so healthy! When we got frustrated
when we were dating, it was too easy to escape the issue by leaving and going
home. Though it’s definitely good to take a minute and step back until you’ve calmed
down, I find it more beneficial to resolve things sooner than later. This way there
isn’t time to build any resentment or bitterness toward the person or the
issue. You also get to observe the other person as they go through every stage
of whatever emotion and you really learn a lot about the best way to handle
things.
Oh
– and for those curious about the title of this post – It’s simply a song I
like. Give it a listen if you’re wanting to add a little groove to your day J It’s been stuck in my
head and I thought it was fitting considering the peak of a mountain is the
highest point and these “Marriage Peaks” have got us high on looooove. Amen and
amen.
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| P.S. Pictures have a way of spicing up just about everything, so here's a little photo of the husband and I at our Stake's Valentine dinner + dance. We've been on a lucky streak lately because at this event we won a gift card to The Elements restaurant here in Logan (which is basically one of the fanciest places in town) and just the other night we went to a Vivint recruiting dinner to support one of Kendal's buddies and won an IPad Air! We are SUPER pumped about both victories. Also love the married student ward we are in and recently received the calling of Sunday School teachers together! It's especially fun because this will probably be one of the only church callings in our life that we get to share. XOXO |
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